Joanna just posted about this article, that her husband wrote for the New York Times,

on why it's so hard to make friends after a certain age...

It's so funny, because it's a subject that Ivo and I have been talking a lot about recently.

No matter how many friends you make, a sense of fatalism can creep in: the period for making B.F.F.’s, the way you did in your teens or early 20s, is pretty much over. It’s time to resign yourself to situational friends: K.O.F.’s (kind of friends) — for now

I can say, with all honesty, I have, like, two friends that I would consider BFF's.

Two friends that I've known 10+ years, that know me inside and out,

who I can tell even the most disturbing thing about myself and they wouldn't even bat an eye.
The type of friends who, if I called to tell them I accidentally (our purposely) killed someone,
would immediately respond with "how should we dispose of the body?".
ha.
 Two.

Gone are the days of a large circle of friends, most what I consider "surface friends".

My group has whittled down to, really, only the people that matter.

And, even so, our lives are so busy that we RARELY see each other,

thank goodness for the telephone and text messages.

But, sometimes it feels lonely.

And, we've grown and changed so much.

It's uncomfortable to sit and think about if we met each other today,

would we be friends? Would we have anything in common?

Is our history what keeps us together?

Honestly, probably.

And that's okay.

Because, there is something to say for history.

I've made quite a few "friends" on Instagram and Twitter.

Ivo rolls his eyes anytime I refer to an internet "friend" - he doesn't consider that real...

he doesn't get it.

But, as I explained to him, these are people I have quite a bit in common with,

versus the people who we know by default...

we live in the same town, went to high school together, know the same people...

But, for me, that doesn't mean that, at the core, we are true-friend material.

I recently met up with an internet friend and her family, and it was great.

We connected, and I can certainly see a friendship growing.

But, our friendship will be different that the traditional friendship I'm used to.

It'll be internet based, mostly confined within 140 characters, or less.

I guess I need to redefine the boundaries of friendships and make way for those of a new kind.

Friendships with people that I have a lot in common with, but maybe I'll never meet.

That's okay.

Because, really, it is difficult to make new friends.

So, I'll take what I can get.

Sorry for the super-wordy post.

;)

xo