This past weekend I had an interesting conversation with a friend-of-a-friend,
who was having a difficult time in her four year relationship.
It went something like this:
FOF: How long have you and Ivo been together?
Me: It'll be ten years this December.
FOF: Oh. Did you guys ever break-up during that time?
Me: No, not once.
FOF: Wow. Can you honestly say you're happy?
For some reason, this question shocked me.
Me: Yes.
Since I relate every real-life situation to a SATC episode, I found something that Charlotte said, not only appropriate, but very true.
FOF: Oh...
Me: I'm happy everyday...not all day, everyday...but everyday.
FOF: Oh. How do you do it? He gets on my nerves so much, sometimes I can't stand him.
Me: I'm pretty sure that's normal.
She went on to explain his many faults and annoyances.
None were all that bad, but she seemed to ball all of the little things into one big annoyance.
I listened and chimed in, when necessary.
I assured her, that it's perfectly normal to argue every now and then.
I'm certainly no expert on relationships, ours works for us.
In reality, she really didn't care about Ivo's and my relationship.
She just needed someone new to vent to, which I get.
It got me thinking about my relationship and
the closest thing I can liken it to, is my family.
I LOVE my family.
My world starts and stops with them.
But, we can get on each others nerves and fight like no other.
We can yell, ignore, say hurtful things...
but, no matter what, our love for each other never lessens.
The arguments, disagreements, and fights never take away from our love.
And that's how I feel my relationship with Ivo is.
We aren't perfect, and neither is our relationship.
We make mistakes, some over-and-over, but our love is always there at the core.
It works for us.
Relationships aren't black and white.
There are so many shades of gray that make them perfectly imperfect.
xo
I LOVE my family.
My world starts and stops with them.
But, we can get on each others nerves and fight like no other.
We can yell, ignore, say hurtful things...
but, no matter what, our love for each other never lessens.
The arguments, disagreements, and fights never take away from our love.
And that's how I feel my relationship with Ivo is.
We aren't perfect, and neither is our relationship.
We make mistakes, some over-and-over, but our love is always there at the core.
It works for us.
Relationships aren't black and white.
There are so many shades of gray that make them perfectly imperfect.
xo
I love this! And so true. Fights are inevitable, you just gotta find the person you fight the least with. And I always say relationships shouldn't be hard work, if it is, you're with the wrong person! :)
ReplyDeletelove love love this! I think I'm gonna print it! This is so true, and it's good to remember it! :)
ReplyDeletealso the pic is fab! :)
So ironic you wrote this today, I feel the same way. There's no "perfect" in my mind either, there's just what works for us. Michael and I fight too, i think that's normal. Fighting shows care in a weird way. If we didn't care we wouldn't argue. So its not an entirely bad thing. But I think at the end of the day my husband and I are friends. We geniunely enjoy time with eachother and laugh. That's pretty important. I can't imagine being married to anyone but my best friend (cliche as it might sound).
ReplyDeleteoccasional reader, rare commenter, but this was a great post! I've had people tell me "wait until you've been married awhile" ... as in things will be different or change or be less the way they are now. all of which I know, but I feel like they're saying this to tell me marriage gets TERRIBLE. you won't like him any more. and on and on an on... me and my husband have been married almost 11 years and through those years and 6-1/2 kids, we're happy. VERY happy. I can't see that changing ever. that's why we're married... to be happy. TOGETHER. makes me very grateful for what we have! sounds like you're just as blessed!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Courtney. I completely agree. And good for you for finding a person that you are happy to be with! Truly blessed!
Delete50 shades of Gray?? LOL. Loved this post and I LOVE how you mention sometimes you relate things to SATC. I do this ALL the time. That Charlotte quote is the best and so very true.
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